X's And O's
Yippee! We're off to a good
start in this story about your family! Tell
me kids', what does it mean to be a family?
If some of you said; sharing, caring, loving, smiles, kisses and hugs.
Well, you are all correct! If
you use please and thank you often you have everyone's best interests at heart.
Right?
Here is my golden rule; it works quite well I might add. I treat people the way I like to be treated, with respect,
optimism and friendliness. I like
to listen and show genuine concern and when they are finished, I smile and offer
a hug if needed. I have at all
times their best interests at heart. After
all I hope for the same in return. Wouldn't
you?
I make time for my family (very important) and make that time for
sharing, loving and understanding. I
listen without judgement or blame and offer a possible solution if need be. A (PMA)
Positive Mental Attitude can work wonders in your life and the lives of others.
I tell my son there's nothing he can't accomplish!
He can do and become anything he wants to if he sets his mind to it. If he just believes in himself!
Parent's listen up! I have
rules and consequences on the behavior too and not the individual, ruling out
any shame or blame placed on them. This
frees up openness between adult and child and places you both in an area of
trust and respect for each other. I
can honestly say my son is my best friend and I am his.
We can share so much with each other without blame, ridicule or shame.
How many of you parents want that same relationship with your children or
grandchildren etc?
It's easy! Kids' are smarter
than most of us give them credit for. What
we think we can hide from them, they already have figured out. So what are we afraid of?
Well, if it's the truth, come on parents, we all know "The truth
shall set you free!" Right?
We want the truth from our kids but are afraid to give it in return.
Who are we kidding? They are
already one step ahead of us in the honesty game.
In order to advance two spaces we need to be honest with ourselves and
our kids. One day our kids will
have kids of their own and what we teach them today will reflect on the ways of
teaching their kids in "The next generation."
So parents, we need to look at what we've learned, make the necessary
changes, keep a (PMA) Positive Mental Attitude and treat our children with
respect reassuring them that they are very special, they have something to
offer, they are worth listening to and deserve our time, respect, understanding,
nurturing and most important our undying love!
Let's say they are nineteen years old, as my son is right now and want a
life of their own. Do we ignore
them and let them go or do we reassure them that our love will go with them on
their ventures down life's long highway. Knowing
full well we will not desert them and that we are proud of their every effort
and every lesson they learn making them a better person.
I'm one of those proud parents that supports her son every step of the
way because I remember how alone I felt on my own and how much I needed and
wanted my parents love and understanding, especially at that vulnerable point in
my life. Life is so complicated and
lonely sometimes and what a better time to know you are loved, wanted and
appreciated than when you are totally alone.
Now let's think for a moment… Relating to the elderly. Here we have another story in itself. It's time we talked about the elderly and I think you know
where I am going with this. I am so
pleased that I was able to bring this to your attention because attention it so
deserves! Try and picture
yourselves in your parent's shoes. Let's
not (Neglect) our elderly and loved ones because one day we will all be in their
shoes! Keep an open mind, an open
heart and allow the love to flow through you and from you every day of your
life. This is what we need to pass
down from generation to generation! (Please
e-mail me and share your thoughts.)
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Copyright 1998 by Author Patti Tricoli
